Online guide marriage and family and the unexpected divorce
Although marriage tends to begin with the best of intentions, people and situations can change unexpectedly. If a married couple has issues that they just can’t seem to work out, they may start to consider the idea of getting a divorce.
Divorce can be a messy process. There are legal issues to sort out, paper work to deal with, and life-changing decisions to be made. In the midst of this, divorcing couples may feel especially upset or angry at each other, feelings that cause further stress during an already difficult time.
To help during a divorce, a couple may choose to try mediation. A divorce mediator is someone who acts as a neutral third party to assist the couple with making important decisions related to the divorce. The mediator will help the couple fairly settle various financial and property issues without bias. The mediator can either sit with both spouses together to discuss matters or talk to each individually.
When choosing a divorce mediator, there are some things you may want to consider before you make your decision:
Do some research. There are services that can help you locate mediators in your area, or you may prefer to search online. Either way, obtain information about the mediator and his or her area of expertise before settling on someone.
Find out how qualified the mediators you are considering are. What is their experience? What is their level of training and what are their qualifications?
You and your spouse will need to come to an agreement about where, when the mediation will take place. This may narrow down your mediation choices.
If you find a few mediators that you like, set up free consultations with them. This way, you can really see what the mediator is like and choose if he or she is the right one to help you with your divorce.
Some mediators charge hourly, but in certain situations a couple can go through mediation without cost. Certain community agencies may help you for free, and court-ordered mediation may not cost the couple anything.
The amount of time it takes to complete mediation can vary depending on each situation. It may take a session or two to get everything sorted out, but in some cases it can take many sessions to complete the process. Make sure the mediator you choose is someone you can work for a long time if needed.
Divorce mediation can be a great help to some couples who are dealing with divorce. Consider mediation as an option if you and your spouse have important divorce-related decisions that need to be taken care of through negotiation.