Online guide tips for family who is considering divorce
When a marriage starts, the new couple looks forward to a bright and happy future. Unfortunately, you never know just what the future will bring. People change, relationships go sour, and sometimes a marriage no longer works. If this happens, it may be time to consider divorce.
In many cases, there will have been ongoing problems with the relationship for a while before a couple seriously considers divorce. There can be various reasons for one or both people in the relationship to become unsatisfied with a marriage, and sometimes problems between the couple are not solved and only get worse over time. In some cases, couples can talk out their problems or seek a marriage counselor for help with fixing their marriage. But there are situations where the marriage cannot be saved.
If it turns out that divorce is the best route, one of the first things that will happen is for one spouse to put together what is called a petition. This document includes the reasons, or grounds, for the divorce. There are two main categories for grounds to fall under: fault and no-fault.
In a fault divorce, one spouse blames the other for the failing marriage. There are several grounds for a fault divorce. If a spouse is cruel, that can be grounds for divorce. This can include both physical and/or emotional abuse. If a spouse has been unfaithful, then adultery can be used as a reason for the divorce. Abandonment and incaceration are other grounds that can be stated for the divorce. In any case, you should have as much proof and documentation as possible to show that your spouse is at fault.
If the divorce is no-fault, this means that neither spouse is specifically to blame for the divorce. The couple may have irreconcilable differences that make it impossible for them to remain married, or perhaps they are simply incompatible. These are legitimate grounds for a no-fault divorce, but in some states a period of separation is required before the divorce will be granted. If this is the case, a couple may have to remain separated for a while before they can actually get a divorce.
When a couple chooses to separate, they will need to create a separation agreement and discuss arrangements related to the separation. Where will each of them live? What will the spouse who leaves do for transportation? How will they deal with financial issues? Where will the children, if any, stay? The couple should answer these questions together and write up a separation agreement showing that each of them agrees to separation. Having a plan will help the rest of the divorce process run more smoothly.
Divorce laws can vary by state. Before you begin the divorce process, make sure you are familiar with the laws where you live.