Online guide tips to family to manage the children difficult
While it may seem to be difficult when you are raising a teenager, few things ever seem to be as difficult as settling on a curfew that you and your teenager can be happy with. This doesn’t really have to be as difficult as everyone has made it out to be in the past though.
There are many things that a caregiver needs to keep in mind when getting ready to start dealing with the task of setting a curfew. The first is that you are the parent (or guardian) of your child, and as such you are the one that has to make the rules. You are not in this as to win popularity, to make new friends, or even really to have a lot of fun. You are here to be a parent or caregiver, not to be their friend, and as such you are going to be making decisions that are going to be decidedly unpopular. Keep this one phrase in mind: “Oh, well.”
What you need to consider is that while you are in charge you need not make your decisions by fiat. There are several things that you can do that will help the situation. One would be to actually sit and talk to your child about what time you both feel it’s reasonable for him to be home by. When you talk with your teenager, be sure that you are actually sitting down and having a discussion, with give and take on both sides, not just one person sitting down and lecturing to the other. Take their opinions and concerns into consideration before making your final decision.
Before making your final decision you may want to give the following idea a try: Let your teenager go out for the night with his or her friends, let them know that you will be waiting up for them, but don’t give a specific time as to when they have to be back home by. You may be pleasantly surprised by the fact that your teenager will come back at a reasonable time of their own volition. If not, then when they do get home talk with them and let them know that you were giving them a chance to set their own curfew that night, and that the time that they chose to come back was not acceptable, and why. Discuss with them as to why it is so important that they be back at a decent time, as opposed to staying out late and partying all night. One way to discuss this would be to bring up examples from your own life, or from the lives of those that are close to your family, if you have any. This would show that you are speaking from experience, and that you are not afraid to show that you have made mistakes in your own life.